What If No One Likes Me?

Christiana Jolaoso
2 min readMay 28, 2022

Almost everyone wants others to like them. But how possible is it for everyone to like you? What do you do when they don't? Do you even need everyone to like you?

Here's the truth…

Many people live to please others, so they try to do whatever it takes to win favors or gain the approval of others. While doing this might be okay, it becomes a problem when you no longer have your personality. You'll often be left struggling to please one person and remain in another person's good books, one in a different direction. It's way too stressful.

So what do you do?

While your preferences may upset another person, the best thing you can do for yourself is to be your best. Don't cower to someone else's standards.

Not everyone will like you. Some would wish they were in your shoes, and others who don't know how to appreciate others would never like you. So, stop questioning your identity.

Look at this…

You won't do what makes you happy when you lose yourself because of others. So you end up losing connection with your true self. You become lost and no longer whole. You're emotionally unstable and become exhausted running helter-skelter, trying to get everybody on board.

What you should do is make their rejection your motivation to work harder. And if they go, that's alright. With fewer people in view, you can see clearly and put your time, energy, and money to better use. Instead of chatting away or explaining yourself, you'll have enough time to invest in learning or strategizing to become a better person.

Finally…

Raise your head high instead of staying defeated and wondering why someone doesn't like you. Put on your best smile and sway with an air of confidence. Before you know it, you're a better version of yourself and won't even mind whether someone likes you.

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Christiana Jolaoso

Thoughts on peace and kindness and how our actions can give us the desired future. Summaries of stories with lessons that steer positive actions.